Strategic strokes, not size, spark her orgasm. If you really want to know what drives her wild, the answer might just be hiding in her drawer. Here are five lessons you can learn from her favorite sex toys . . .
Linger a Little
Unlike porn actresses, most women first focus sex toys on their clitoris, penetrating only as climax nears, says Lisa Lawless, Ph.D., cofounder of the National Association for Sexual Awareness and Empowerment.
What you can Do: Your penis isn’t just for penetration. Use it to stroke her outer labia and clitoris during foreplay, says Vivienne Cass, Ph.D., author of The Elusive Orgasm. Gyrating along these pleasure points while steadily increasing pressure will push her desire to the tipping point, so once you penetrate, you’ll deliver orgasm-inducing thrusts.
Pick the Right Position
G-spot stimulators target the spongy, sensitive area in her upper vaginal wall, 2 inches from the opening. G-spot (as opposed to clitoral) orgasms come from strategic pressure, not size. “Those huge, manmade members aren’t what she’s hiding under the mattress,” says Lawless.
What you can Do: To put pressure on this sensitive area with each thrust, you should enter her when she’s on her back, with her knees resting on her chest.
Warm Her Up
With two vibrating petals shaped like a set of hare’s ears, the Rabbit rubs both sides of her clitoris.
What you can Do: Stimulate (gently) the clitoris from all sides. First, use your index and ring fingers to rub the sides. After she warms up, simultaneously stroke the top of her clitoris with your middle finger, completing the chorus that will send her over the edge.
Dual-action devices massage her clitoris and G-spot in tandem so she’s flushed with sensation in the two areas that trigger an orgasm.
What you can Do: Good things come in pairs. If you’re licking her clitoris, finger her G-spot. If she’s in the cowgirl position, rub her clitoris. “At any given time, either the G-spot or the clitoris should receive attention,” says Dorian Solot, coauthor of I Love Female Orgasm: An Extraordinary Orgasm Guide.
The classic, multispeed vibrator lets her focus on her most nerve-rich erogenous spot, the clitoris, as she slowly increases the intensity.
What you can Do: A little change is good; too much can capsize an orgasm. Always start slow, with gentle, broad strokes of your finger or tongue. Build toward a climax, instead of rapidly changing techniques and intensity. Hum while you lick and you’ll cause the same sensation as her pocket rocket.